‘Tis the season. Is it?
Every year around the fall and winter holidays I fight the same battle with… myself. Haunted by all the TV ads and the overdone decorations everywhere you go. People seem to be forgetting a few things. I personally could not care less about Thanksgiving. I am 50% Cherokee and in my mind this whole thing is.. not sitting well. Give thanks for? Being fed by the native americans just to survive and take away their land? No, I won’t give thanks for that, but yet I still stand in the kitchen for 3 days and cook up to 8 hours a day. Why? Well I married a family, not just my husband, and they are very fond of all these holidays. Each in their own way for other reasons. Their families were immigrants and celebrating Thanksgiving for them might be a reminder of how they have survived the hardships of starting anew and accomplished their big and little goals. I can understand that and I love them very much and therefor I will be the one treating them to a grand dinner. They would accept if I told them to go find someone else for stuff like this, but they took me in the way I was, with all my troubles and treated me as their own. Now there I have a reason to be thankful. Also naturally they are older than me and I can imagine that when they were small things were a lot different, they were relatively poor and still their mothers made the feast happen, somehow. And I am pretty sure it was not so overdone like it is these days. Can you say hi to rivalry? Who has the best feast where will the parents spend thanksgiving where will the daughter in law go to her own family or her in laws? Which will be talked about the most? So totally stupid questions and unneccesary fights.. but oh hell yeah they happen a lot. One of them being in our own family. My husbands uncle and aunt have to do everything twice because their daughter and their daughter in law HATE each other. They wont even let their kids play together or be on the same table at a family holiday. How are those two being thankful? No, they just put their in laws or parents through hell making them chose and yes the other party will be very dissapointed. It does not fit the false friendliness they will put on during the retarded dinner. It is missing half of the family? Is it not? Now their son is just as much in the middle of it feeling horrible about the fact that his sister and his wife can not make it through 2 hours near each other. But he is dieing from a horrible heart desease and they all should be thankful for every day they spend with him. Unless he wont get a new heart he will fade in the near future. But it does not matter the own ego is more important then that. And why do we need special days to be thankful? I let my family know I love them as often I can, but hey whatever the industry comes up with to make insane sales, I am sure works. To end this paragraph, thank you for letting me be who I am and I will compromise to honor what makes you happy. This does give me the feeling that I should have I suppose but again for my own reasons. Harahkte I love now and every day!Now that we had the tv ads brought up, I really can not stand the whole journey diamond thing. No I hate it… You would to if you saw the press presentation of that huge Belgium Diamond Company whose name I refuse to put into my blog! How they put 300 Million Dollars (maybe even more I can not remember exactly ) into their stupid campaign while the people mining those diamonds do it for less then 3 dollars a day…. Hey assholes how about giving them a little raise… your tv ads suck so bad they aren’t worth 1 cent! I don’t think I need a diamond necklace to believe that my husband he loves me, he would not dare giving me something that was reason for the mistreatment of the workers in Sierra Leone. Hell no he would not dare! Presents are nice but I get spoiled all year around which I love naturally, so the whole X-Mas thing is just another day in my life where I tell everyone that I love them like I do every other day. The only one who gets special treatment that day is the kid. I am not into church and the whole Jesus thing, whom I strongly believe was born in summer anyways! But my daughter is 5 years old and not quite ready to make up her mind and until she does I will celebrate it the way she imagines in her dreams, but that is the only reason!I guess I am just really rambling out, there is so much in my mind, and why, this is all not all that important.To my family and friends I love you and I can not tell you all that often enough!